99 Big Talk Questions [lists and examples]

What if we could skip the small talk, and get into interesting and deep conversations right away?
Talking about fairies, the universe, foreign places, hopes, and dreams!
Kalina Silverman coined the phrase Big Talk when she as a social experiment skipped all the small talk.

She started asking people all the big questions in life.
What do you want to do before you die? This could be a wild question for friends!
Realizing her conversations made her relationships with her peers more meaningful, she expanded her circle of test subjects to the point where she traveled the world, asking total strangers Big talk questions.

Kalina Silverman wasn’t the first, but she is probably the best known for this. Deep Conversation Topics are not a new thing and in this article, I will give you 100 or more questions, you can ask, to get the conversation started.

Big Talk Questions that keep the conversation going.

10 great questions to keep a conversation going:

What could you give a 30-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation?
What is one thing you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?
What is the most interesting place you’ve ever been to?
What is the best thing that happened to you last week?
Why did you decide to do the work you do now?
If all jobs had the same pay and hours, what job would you like to have?
What was the best book or series you’ve ever read?
What is your favorite genre of book or movie?
What do you wish you knew more about?
What takes up too much of your time?

How to start a deep conversation.

A deep conversation happens by accident for most people. With these 100 questions, you can create them at will.
Deep conversations usually happen when two or more share a common interest.
Ask these questions you can find those commonalities.

First, you need to find the topics that resonate with your interests, and second, start asking people.
Easy? Well, it is not as easy as it might sound. You need to be brave as it is outside our comfort zone to ask questions that matter to us.
You will realize that people LOVE talking about themself.
Actually, in most cases, it’s their favorite subject.

Deep Conversation topics to talk about.

Do you believe we are alone in this universe?
What do you think happens when we die?
What job do you think you would be good at?
If you had unlimited funds to build a house that you would live in for the rest of your life, what would it look like?
What age would you wish to be, if it was permanent?
If you had only one day left, how would you spend it?
Have your priorities changed over time and if so, how?
What has been your biggest challenge in life, and how did you overcome it?
Are you living a meaningful life?
Do you live to work or work to live?

Big topics to talk about with friends.

What do you value most in a friendship?
What do you want your legacy to be?
If you had a time machine, what period would you travel to?
What are your favorite three topics to talk about?
If you could choose any job you wanted, what would it be?
What do you dream of doing, but haven’t done yet?
Who was your biggest idol growing up and why?
What is the most stupid thing you have ever done for fun?
What was your favorite place, when growing up?
What amazing thing did you do when no one was around to see it?

Best Questions to ask a girl.

What songs have you completely memorized?
What is your favorite piece of clothing you own?
What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
What was the first thing you bought with your own money?
Who is your best friend and why?
What makes you happy?
What is your favorite topic to talk about?
What quirks do you have?
If you had to get a tattoo right now, what would it be?
What is the one thing you can’t live without?

big talk questions to ask a date — Big talk questions to ask a date

Question to ask a date.

What do you look forward to in the coming months?
Where is the most beautiful place you have ever been to?
What is special about the place where you grew up?
What are you most likely to be famous for?
What memories instantly make you smile?
What is the best way to get to spend time with you?
Where was your favorite place to go as a child and why did you love it there?
What are your top 5 things on your bucket list?
How would you describe your life in 10 years?
When was the last time you felt loved?

Clever Conversation Starters.

Where in the world would you like to wake up tomorrow?
What are you thankful for right now?
What is your favorite age so far and why?
What is your number one priority today?
What do you miss about being a kid?
If you could go back in time, what is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?
What is one thing you would like to do within the next year, you have never done before?
Who or what has changed your life?
What is the best advice you ever got?
What is your favorite family tradition?

Deep Conversation Starters vs. Questions.

Big Talk Topics and Deep Conversation Starters might be two sides of the same coin. However, there are significant differences. Especially when it comes to intent.
Asking a big talk question, it’s usually to get the conversation started on an interesting subject. Deep conversation questions are used to get to know someone better.

There is no right or wrong here. They all work and you will never be bored conversing with anyone ever again.
You don’t need to remember all 100 questions, just memorize a couple that speaks to you the most.
Try and answer some of these deep conversation questions yourself, you might learn something you didn’t know or never thought about.

Big Talk Questions free list.

If you could talk to everyone in the world, what would you say?
Do you want your children to be like you?
What is your greatest strength / Weakness?
How do you show love?
What is your next great adventure?
How do you think the world will change in the next 10, 20, and 30 years?
How would your perfect partner treat you?
What is the nicest thing you have ever done for another person?
What happened in the last dream you can remember?
What is the one thing that should be taught in school that isn’t?

Need some wild questions to ask your friends? Take a look at the next ten. What is holding you back in life could take your friendship and lives in a totally new direction!
All the big topics to talk about on this list are mature things to talk about in a relationship.

Here are some topics designed to make Deep conversation Starters for Dates, Friends, or Family.

Deep Conversation Starters.

Have you ever lost someone close to you?
What bridges are you happy to burn?
What was your favorite activity growing up?
What do we most need in today’s world?
Do you ever wish you were born in another decade?
What do you believe to be the meaning of life?
What is your biggest goal in life?
Where is your life heading?
What is holding you back in life?
Who do you know, who is living life to the max?

Good questions to get the conversation going

Are you a spiritual person and what does that mean to you?
What is the hardest thing you had to go through in life?
Can a positive outlook on life make life better?
If you could only own three items what would they be?
What age do you feel like on the inside?
What day would you choose as your Groundhog Day?
What is the first thing you think of when you think of success?
What will you fight for til the day you die?
If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
What desperately needs to be modernized?

the best date is when time flies — The best date is when time flies

Tips for better conversation.

Deep conversation or not, it all depends on the relationship between you and the one(s) you try to engage in conversation with clever conversation starters.
Even the best questions and intentions are wasted on the wrong person.

Don’t ask your girlfriend any of these questions while the kids are screaming and you are preparing dinner. Make sure you both have space to focus on the question. If she can’t focus and you only listen with half an ear, it’s a waste of a great question.

Big Talk questions and Deep Conversation questions can be wonderful tools if used correctly. A fun fact is that a lot of people are starting over at 50+, and by asking some of these questions you might even get to know why, and maybe get a headstart in your own life.

Be a participant, not a Big Talk interviewer.

Nobody wants to be interrogated. We all want meaningful, deep conversation topics with people we feel connected to. You should share it as well when you have found your big topics to talk about.

Only use one or two of these big talk questions, keep the rest of the conversation light and upbeat.
This is not a coaching session, it is a way to gradually get to know each other better and make you look good.

If you need more inspiration, here are 29 good topics to talk about

Big Talk Questions do not guarantee deep conversation topics.
They could however enhance your social life, or at least serve as great starters.

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